The loss of a loved one can cause many feelings, thoughts, and sensations. Feelings about loss may include anger, sadness, worry, relief, fear, and/or numbness. Thoughts about loss may include questions like “Why did this happen to me?” and “What will happen next?” or statements like “I don’t understand what is happening”, “This can’t be real”, and “No one is hurting like I am.” Oftentimes the grief experienced because of loss can show up in our bodies – you might be very tired or have trouble sleeping. You might have headaches or stomachaches. You might also stop enjoying the things you like to do like playing sports, hanging out with friends, and going to school.

These feelings, thoughts, and sensations are all normal.

Grief is often not something you just get over. Grief is better described as a journey and although it may feel overwhelming, there are lots of things you can do to begin to heal:

1. Find someone to talk to. Talking may feel scary because of the feelings you have inside of you. However, sitting with a counselor, a trusted teacher, your family, or a group of your friends can help to normalize your feelings and provide you with much-needed support as you navigate the grieving process.
2. Express your grief in creative ways. Write, draw, sing, or paint; the possibilities are endless! Channeling your energy into a creative outlet might help to express your feelings in a way that feels more manageable than talking.
3. Some people choose to experience their grief physically. Going for a run, a bike ride, a long walk, or engaging in aerobic exercise may help to make you feel better.

Remember, every person experiences loss differently and there is no right or wrong way to grieve. Here are some helpful resources for adolescents and families in our area. We are here to help if needed, reach out any time.