R.J. Grey Junior High School

Hi Everyone,

Welcome to March and all that snow that didn’t really appear for most of this Winter.  Hopefully this trend won’t continue for very long and have an impact on our Spring sports season (more on that below).  Reports about tonight’s expected snowstorm suggest that there could be an impact on tomorrow’s commute and possible delays or cancellations of school.  Please note that I am not making any declarations of what could or should happen tomorrow, that’s fortunately a decision that is entirely in the hands of the Superintendent and one that none of us envy.  If the kids do have a snow day tomorrow, and you might have the opportunity or need to join them at home for the day, I wanted to offer up a few items that you may be interested in reading at some point during the day.  There’s no theme that runs through all of the pieces, it’s really a smorgasbord of things that I read and saw over the past few days, ranging from light-hearted popular culture to something that encourages healthy self-reflection by our community.  First, as we continue to (appropriately) think about the importance of sleep - for all of us at all ages - there are many ideas about how to carve out more time for sleep, and here is a Washington Post article about a recent study that argues that “catch up sleep” on weekends doesn’t repair or address the lack of sleep one might experience during the week.  For those who might be a child of the ‘80s, perhaps you’ve heard about how the 1982 hit song “Gloria” has experienced a small revival thanks to the St. Louis Blues hockey team that plays the song after each victory.  I took special note of this development given that my sister Gloria was born the year before the song came out so there were many friends and neighbors who liked to sing the song in her presence over and over (and over) again.  If you’re not familiar with the song, you can listen/watch it here.  In early February, our new Superintendent Peter Light shared his Report of Entry Findings, which includes a summary of initial impressions and questions that he’s developed about the strengths and challenges of our District based on conversations with members of our community.  I recently sent the report to members of our School Council so we can discuss it at our next meeting, and I am (re)sharing it what all of you as well. Finally, my favorite article from this past week also comes from the Washington Post about an elementary school Principal in Texas who, often in an adult-sized onesie, reads stories on Facebook Live at 7:30pm on “Tucked in Tuesdays” so her students can tune in and have another option for a bedtime story.  I immediately shared a link to the story with Conant Principal Damian Sugrue who I think is a perfect candidate for that role here at A-B.   

Here are a few updates and reminders about the next few weeks.  Please note that the second half of this week’s Grey Matters is focused on High School course registration for current 8th grade students.  I am re-printing an email that I sent to 8th grade families last Friday to make sure everyone has had a chance to review the information and links to additional resources.

The Winter Trimester closes this Tuesday. It’s likely that Winter Trimester report cards will be emailed to families on or around March 15. Please remember that report cards will be emailed to any email address currently listed in your student’s Emergency Card in the Parent Portal.   

On Friday, March 8 from 2:30 - 4:00 in the gym the student council will sponsor the sixth annual March Madness basketball tournament.  Students interested in forming a team needed to submit forms last week. There will also be food, music, and limbo at the event and students not competing in the tournament are welcome to attend and cheer for their classmates.  

Don’t forget that the RJ Grey Junior High yearbook is offering you the chance to send your love, pride and congratulations to the graduating 8th grade RJ Grey student in your life.  You can purchase one of two advertisement formats to relay a message that your 8th grade student will cherish forever. Ads must be submitted by Wednesday, March 13. Please click the link for submissions guidelines and instructions. Please contact Marc Lewis ([email protected]) with any questions.  

Our Spring sports season is around the corner.  We need a little bit more time to finalize the schedule for tryouts and sign ups for our Spring sports programs - Baseball, Softball, Volleyball and Track. There are still tryouts for baseball and softball, tryouts for the girls volleyball program, and track continues to be a “no-cut sport.”  In other words, any student interested in participating on the Track team is welcome to join. Those tryouts and meeting times will be up on the website in the next few weeks and we’ll include mention of it in our daily announcements. In the meantime, please note that families must register on FamilyID for EVERY SEASON that their student plans to participate in a sport. If your child already participated in a Fall or Winter sport and wishes to participate in a Spring sport, they must still register for their Spring sport on FamilyID. Also, this season payments will be made via check to your coach, as there will not be an online option to pay this Spring.  

In terms of participation in the track program, we plan to continue providing an option for students (and families) who are interested in the track program, but not prepared to commit to the full practice and meet schedule.  Not attending each practice or meet, as you can imagine, can create some challenges given the need to organize and schedule things like relays teams, practice plans, and logistics for away meets.  With this in mind, we offer students the choice to sign up for one of two options: (1) students who can commit to at least three practices per week, including all home meets, should sign up for the Blue Team.  Please note that the two non-practice days for students on the Blue Team needs to be the same from week to week.  (2) Students who wish to travel to away meets (in addition to home meets) and be eligible for relay teams and field events can sign up for the Gold Team.  Gold Team members are expected to attend all practices and all meets, without exception (unless the student is sick and absent from school).  It is entirely up to the student (and his/her family) to choose the best option that makes the most sense for him or her.  Please note that the participation fee is the same for either option. The above options will be explained to everyone at the first Track meeting (date forthcoming) so they can make an informed decision.  Remember that all important information about Spring sports can be found at our school’s Athletics page.  

As we enter March we have another RJ Grey Artist of the Month.  Congratulations to Natalie Stoval of 8 Blue who has been selected as this month’s Artist of the Month. When asked about her long-term interests and how art may be involved, she replied: "When I grow up, I want to become a costume designer. I would like to work for a big movie making industry, maybe Disney. I really love fashion and drawing and think I might have a future doing that." Congratulations to Natalie and you can click here to view her art work (also on display in our school lobby).  

Ok - the focus of Grey Matters from this point on will be High School Course Registration for 8th Grade Students, and a reprint of the email letter that was sent to 8th grade families last Friday.  

Through the end of next week, our Junior High counselors will be giving presentations to 8th grade classes about course offerings and requirements at the High School, and team teachers will be making course recommendations for students.  If you’d like to review the slides that were/will be part of the presentation to your child, you can view that by clicking here (note: Slide 16 of that presentation includes a list of important dates and deadlines).  Prior to the February Break, the High School hosted an Orientation session for 8th grade families to provide an overview of the transition process, including an introduction to the new schedule that will be implemented next year.  You can view and download the materials provided at that session by clicking here.  Additionally, here is an FAQ that the High School has posted regarding the new schedule.  

Along with the above mentioned resources, families should review all of the following documents: (1) the High School Program of Studies, which includes details about course requirements and guidelines; (2) the list of 9th grade electives for 2019-2020; and (3) directions for electronic course selections.  I would strongly recommend that all 8th grade families review the entirety of the directions - there is information about the process for override requests that must be followed should you wish to pursue that route. Please note that families who might need assistance with accessing the portal should use the high school contact information that is listed at the top of the instruction sheet.  

On Monday, March 18, the portal for current 8th grade students to register for high school courses will be open.  By then, all students will have had conversations with their current 8th grade teachers about course and level recommendations.  During the conversations that takes place with a student, teachers will explain some of their observations about the student’s strengths and areas for growth, and what level placement may be most appropriate for next year.  In many of these conversations, students also share with teachers their thoughts on next year, their level of interest in the subject, and their own reflections on the progress they’ve made this year. To be sure, a teacher’s recommendation is influenced by a student’s performance thus far (trimester grades being just one measure), along with a variety of other observations about a student’s approach to the subject.  There are certainly variations that come with different areas of study. For example, English and Social Studies teachers are asked by the high school to give particular weight to writing, reading comprehension, and critical thinking. To that end, a teacher in one of those disciplines may place emphasis on a student’s growth on certain types of writing assignments, along with other factors.

In all of the subjects, teacher will often review with a student their observations about specific student skills, such as time management and self-discipline, and consistency of work.  In addition, teachers are asked to consider level placement with the hope that students will both enjoy the class and have the time to pursue other interests, including extracurricular activities. During this process, it’s important to remind ourselves that these recommendations aren’t meant to serve as a final verdict or prediction for how a student will perform for the rest of their academic lives. It’s feedback based on what a student has demonstrated this year, and using that as a guide to thinking about what a student would be prepared to take on next year.   Some students may have hit their stride this year, and for others it may be their sophomore year when all of a sudden they develop a passion for a certain subject or they figure out that whole time management puzzle.  I am confident that the high school also recognizes that things can and do change over time for adolescents and that there’s always a path for students to take that suit their interests and strengths.

For many of you, the recommendations made by the teachers may align with your own leanings, and even your child’s. If there are situations where you feel you would benefit from additional feedback from the teacher or counselor, please ask.  In addition, it’s very useful to discuss with your child what all of you might view as a healthy and appropriate course load for next year.  For example, while a student may have the ability to be successful in a number of accelerated courses, it may not be in one’s best interest to be taking them all at the same time (on top of participating in sports, and/or the school musical, and community service).  Finally, in those instances where you and your student would like to enroll in a course level that is different from the teacher recommendation, there is an “override” application process that is managed by the high school. Within the registration instructions, there is a description of the steps that the high school would like you to take to pursue those requests.  I hope this information is helpful to all of you as you navigate this process.

Have a great week, everyone.

Cheers,

Hi Everyone,

Welcome back from February Break - I hope your time last week included opportunities for a bit of rest as well as some fun activities.  For the past few years, our family has used the February Break as an opportunity to disconnect, removing ourselves from work and school and having the good fortune to get away and enjoy warmer weather.  This year we went in a very different direction and decided to spend this entire last week moving our family from the home we’ve lived in for the past fifteen years to a new house that we recently bought in another Metrowest community.  Prior to living in the house we just left, Melisa and I were childless and living in a small apartment in Cambridge, so my previous experience with moving mostly involved a rented U-Haul and cramming sheets and bedding into the trunks of our cars.  Three kids and fifteen years of accumulating many things that I no longer remember why we needed in the first place later, this move was a bit more taxing. Fortunately, we had great movers who braved the snow and sleet on Monday (because of course it snowed on moving day), and also benefited from having a member of our family who was born for these types of projects.  During our 18 years as a couple, I’ve become a bit more accustomed to my better half’s need for items in the refrigerator to have their labels be front facing, though her need to always reload the dishwasher after I’ve done a perfectly adequate job of loading it a few minutes earlier has at times been a source of….disagreement.  However, I will be the first to acknowledge that when it comes to moving out of one home and into another one, her obsession with attention to detail and disdain for messiness was an invaluable asset.  While certainly a very different kind of move and one that is happening only after two years (at RJ Grey), families of our 8th grade students will soon be asked to turn their attention to plans for next year where a bit of preparation now can help make for a smooth transition later in the Fall.  During the next few weeks our 8th grade students and families will begin the process of learning about 9th grade courses at the high school. Before the February break, the High School held an orientation meeting for families of current 8th grade students, and provided an outline of the course registration process.  8th grade teachers will also begin individual conversations with students to discuss their recommendations for course and level placement. The actual registration process takes place via the Parent Portal when the portal opens in late March.  In next week’s Grey Matters, I will provide more detail and information about the above process, and offer some perspective specifically on the conversation that teachers will have with students about course and level recommendations.  For current 7th grade families whose children will be returning to RJ Grey next year for 8th grade, you’ll also be receiving information in March about course enrollment (regarding options involving Math placement, Grey Block choices, etc.) which starting this year will also now be online through the Parent Portal.  We’re testing things out right now and looking forward to providing everyone with instructions that will guide you through the process.  

Here’s some reminders and updates as we prepare to enter the month of March:

The Winter Trimester closes on Tuesday, March 5 and report cards will be emailed to families on or around March 15.   

Don’t forget that the R.J. Grey Junior High yearbook is offering you the chance to send your love, pride and congratulations to the graduating 8th grade R.J. Grey student in your life.  You can purchase one of two advertisement formats to relay a message that your 8th grade student will cherish forever. Ads must be submitted by Wednesday, March 13. Please click the link for submissions guidelines and instructions. Please contact Marc Lewis ([email protected]) with any questions.  

We have no scheduled early dismissals or days off of school until Thursday, April 4 when we have our next and final early release for staff professional learning.  

In the coming weeks we’ll be sharing with students and families the sign up and/or tryout schedule for our Spring sports programs (likely to start in late March/early April).  We will continue to have teams for baseball, softball, girls volleyball and Spring track.  Stay tuned for more information.

We recently received information from both the Town of Acton and Town of Boxborough about an essay contest sponsored by the Massachusetts Municipal Association for 8th grade students, with a focus on local government issues and civic engagement.  For information about the essay contest, click here.   

Given this week’s theme about transitions and planning for next year, I thought it would make sense to also provide families with a brief preview of RJ Grey’s plans to establish a 1:1 Chromebook environment at our school starting in September.  First, a little bit about the “what” and then a brief overview of the “why”, with plans for considerably more information throughout this Spring.  In terms of the “what” - our plans for a 1:1 Chromebook environment is one where a school-owned Chromebook is assigned to each of our students, and would travel with the students during the school day, but does not ever leave the building.  In this model, students would pick up the device in the morning during homeroom, and then would return it to the charging station at the end of the day.  As part of this approach, students are not asked to purchase the device, nor do they take them home after school. In some ways, it’s similar to the more familiar practice of assigning students a science textbook to use for the duration of the year, except of course that a science textbook can probably survive being dropped a bit more easily than a Chromebook.  While a student doesn't pay for and "own" the device, we certainly want students to treat and care for them in an appropriate manner and we’re working to develop routines and habits that assist with the safe travels of the Chromebooks throughout the school day.  To that end, I am partnering with 7 Red teachers later this Spring to pilot a few ideas for how to effectively manage the travel of these devices throughout the building, and as just one example, the mechanics of where to have students place their devices when they go to Gym or the Cafeteria.  For those of you who have kids on 7 Red, stay tuned for a separate communication from me and the team teachers when we get closer to the time when those plans are implemented.

As for a small bit of the “why,” we now have many RJ Grey teachers who are infusing technology into their classrooms in ways that enable them to enhance and adapt their instruction, and where they serve as a resource for students in ways that go well beyond mere word processing. There is an enthusiasm for the role that Chromebooks have played, and can play, that we want to cultivate and support, but is currently limited by our current model where teachers can’t reliably count on having access to Chromebooks.  Instead, they have to compete for access to the Chromebook carts that are shared amongst team teachers. Our shift to a 1:1 environment isn’t done with the expectation or goal of having students use Chromebooks in every class, throughout the day, every day of the school year. Instead, the intent is to have that particular tool more readily available if and when there is an appropriate role that it can serve in the classroom. And while we do believe there are many of those moments where technology can and will improve the student experience, there are and will still be plenty of moments within each class where Chromebooks are not in use and things like pen, paper, lab equipment and face-to-face discussions are at the heart of a lesson or activity, as they should be.  

I am predicting that within our parent/guardian community, there might be some diversity of opinion and enthusiasm about this plan and about the thinking I just shared above.  I already know that there are many of you who, upon hearing this news, will be thinking, “it’s about time.” There are also others who carry certain reservations about the role of technology in the classroom and perhaps skeptical of its overall value and benefits.  My hope is that over the course of the Spring I’ll be able to expand on our plans and reasons for this shift by providing snapshots and highlights of the ways that Chromebooks are being utilized in the classroom right now, along with updates about our preparation for next year.  

Finally, in the Grey Matters that I sent before February Vacation, I made mention of our Blue & Gold Day assembly plans for that Friday, and some of the traditions that have become a part of the event, including some form of competition amongst teachers which this year took the form of a rather lively and energetic version of musical chairs.  Congratulations to 7 Red Social Studies teacher Mr. Zeese who was victorious in his first-ever staff competition.  A big thank you to our Student Council officers, and members of our Band, Chorus, String Ensemble, and Cheerleading squad for their performances and contributions to the event.  

Have a great week, everyone.  Welcome back.

Cheers,

Hi Everyone,

Over the past few years I’ve made a few references to cognitive biases, which refers to some common tendencies that many of us have when trying to make sense of information that comes before us.  For example, the gambler’s fallacy which is where someone flips a coin and it lands on “heads” five times in a row, and so she might have the inclination to believe that the law of averages means there is a greater chance that the sixth coin flip will be “tails”.  Here is a 2014 article from Business Insider that summarized 58 other cognitive biases.  The last time I mentioned cognitive biases was to mention my own experiences with what is known as frequency illusion, where “a word, a name or other thing that has recently come to one’s attention seems to appear with improbable frequency shortly afterwards.” Two years ago, everywhere I turned and everything I read, seemed to be strategically placed to remind me that I was going to be turning 40 later that Spring (including at the time, but not limited to, endless stories about Tom Brady, the “ageless wonder” who is the same age as me).  This time around, I’ve recently felt like I am being bombarded wherever I turn with stories, articles, and television previews that are highlighting the social experiences of middle school-aged girls.  What might be the motivation for this maneuvering by the universe?  A couple of possibilities come to mind, including that my daughter is turning 12 this week and she and eight of her girl friends are currently sleeping in our sunroom, recovering from the collective uttering of what can be no fewer than 25 million words last night. In a rare moment of wise parental decision making, Melisa and I agreed that she would be the one to travel downstairs to speak to the girls at 3AM about needing to go to sleep - nuclear conflict with grumpy dad avoided. As Melisa and I travel a bit father into our journey as parents of a middle school girl, and join the rest of you in this adventure, I wanted to pass along links and information about a few of the more thought-provoking articles and resources that entered my orbit last week.  First, here is the cover story of Harvard’s School of Education magazine Ed. entitled, “Girlhood” with the subheading, “After years of social gains and bright futures within reach, why are things still so difficult for middle school girls?”  A lot of food for thought within the piece, including observations by Bo Burhnam, the writer-director of the critically acclaimed film Eighth Grade, which served as an updated exploration of how early adolescence is experienced by kids today.  Something he said that has stuck with me a bit, “There’s been a lot of progress made, but the cultural pressures are still insane. And culture is what leads you at that age, I think…..I think our culture forces girls to ask deeper questions of themselves earlier than boys...I feel like our culture asks boys ‘What do you like to do?’ and asks girls ‘Who are you?’ I think there’s an immense interior mental pressure put on girls, so ‘deep’ is kind of their starting point. You can’t not be deep when you’ve been buried. It’s also a very specific time in life, and girls are mentally and emotionally maturing a bit quicker at 13 maybe.”  Following in the footsteps of Burnham’s film, and perhaps with more of a comedic edge in mind, the Washington Post published a review of the new Hulu series Pen15 with the oh-so-catchy title, “Hollywood is finally portraying middle school as the awkward, miserable and important stage it is”.  If any of you have seen portions of the show, let me know if it’s worth checking out.  Finally, a good friend of mine attended a local event last Thursday featuring Rachel Simmons, author of  Enough As She Is: How to Help Girls Move Beyond Impossible Standards of Success to Live Healthy, Happy and Fulfilling Lives, along with Odd Girl Out, and The Curse of the Good Girl.  My friend was effusive in her praise of Rachel Simmons and her message, so I checked out her website and found that she includes a number of pieces and what she calls “GirlTips” on topics ranging from relationships, achievement and failure, and social media.  I found the pieces I read (I checked out a sampling) to be fairly right-sized in length, and written using language and examples that are pretty straightforward and relatable.  [update: I am writing Grey Matters at 7:40am and I just heard some laughter in the other room]

Here are a few updates and reminders for the next few weeks:

February Vacation begins after school this Friday, February 15. Friday is a full-day of school.  If you already know that your child will be absent on that day, please be sure to let our Main Office know so we can manage the attendance process successfully.  You can email Katy Frey at [email protected].  

The Winter Trimester closes on Tuesday, March 5 and report cards will be emailed to families about two weeks after that.  Additionally, 8th grade students and their families will begin to discuss course registration and recommendations with teachers in early/mid-March.  I’ll be sure to provide additional details about that entire process when we return from February Vacation.

Don’t forget that the R.J. Grey Junior High yearbook is offering you the chance to send your love, pride and congratulations to the graduating 8th grade R.J. Grey student in your life.  You can purchase one of two advertisement formats to relay a message that your 8th grade student will cherish forever. Ads must be submitted by Wednesday, March 13. Please click the link for submissions guidelines and instructions. Please contact Marc Lewis ([email protected]) with any questions.  

I’m excited to provide a well-deserved shout out to the twelve members of our RJ Grey Cooking Club, who last Friday evening hosted an Italian Family Dinner event for friends and family in the RJ Grey cafeteria.  The club and its members were recently profiled in a nice story written by the Acton Beacon, which you can read by clicking here.  Created and led by Health teacher Deb Rimpas, and Food Services staff members Jean Tibbets and Kirsten Nelson, the Cooking Club filled a lot of stomachs last Friday and kudos to the following students for their efforts:  Max MacQuilken, Georgie Smith, Josie Hanlon, Lenka Chytil, Kimaya Gazula, Bree McKinley, Liam Buck, Gabby Luciano, Biz Brooks, Asher Ryba, Justin Nyguyen, and Priyanka Chidambaram.

On Friday, we will enter the break by having our annual Blue & Gold Day assembly, which has traditionally served as a celebration of school spirit, and where we gather as a whole school (which only really happens a few times a year).  As usual we’ll be sure to post the best photos of the event on our Twitter feed, and it will make for a great start to the February Break.  An important reminder that there will be no homework assigned for vacation period.  We hope that everyone uses this time as an opportunity to disconnect from school and devote time to other interests.  Safe travels to those who are using the break as a chance to get away.

Have a great week, a great February Break, everyone.

Cheers,

Hi Everyone,

Our school district just recently submitted our proposed operating budget for the next school year, which includes funding for staffing, programs, and capital planning. I am glad it was well-received by our School Committee and am now wondering if it’s too late to sneak in an additional item that I only came across earlier this week that I am convinced will increase productivity in the Junior High Principal’s office, specifically a newly designed work desk that easily converts to a space for an afternoon nap (see photo to right).  I don’t know if it’s the nature of the work, or the stage of life I am in (read: getting older and not on the TB12 diet), but the idea of a quick nap in the early afternoon often feels like just the thing that would make the rest of the day go smoothly.  Depending on the outcome of tonight’s Super Bowl, a nap desk may be exactly what I need tomorrow around mid-morning. On a related note, the Junior High and High School are now entering our sixth month with later start times in the morning, having shifted from 7:30am to 8:00am at the Junior High for this current school year.  I wanted to make mention of this for two reasons. First, A-B is preparing a series of surveys geared towards students, staff, and families about the change in start times, and hoping to collect feedback and information about the benefits and challenges that they may have observed and experienced this year.  When those surveys are sent out I would encourage everyone to take a few minutes to participate - the more data the better. My second reason for bringing up the shift in start times has to do with patterns of tardiness at the Junior High.  Last year, I was optimistic that pushing start times to 8:00am would, among other things, reduce the number of students who arrive tardy to school (either occasionally or more chronically). You may or may not be surprised to learn that our tardiness rate this year is approximately double what we had during the same period of time last school year.  I don’t bring this up in an effort to shame or finger-wag at anyone, but instead to inform and start a bit of a dialogue about it. To be sure, there will be times throughout the year when morning routines have hiccups - planned and unplanned - where a student might arrive late to school, and that’s life and to be expected.  The challenge and concern is when those late arrivals becomes a bit more habitual and casual. A pattern of running into school even at 8:00am or a few minutes right after the bell means that the day is starting a bit frenzied (and if multiplied by many students, waiting in line to check in and get a pass to head to class may take additional time).  I will admit that I’m not quite sure what to make of this increase in student tardiness and our School Council recently brainstormed and speculated on a few potential contributing factors without reaching any conclusions we felt certain about. Is the change in traffic patterns to and from school in the morning substantially different? Is the new start time colliding more with parent/guardian work schedules and routines? Do more Junior High students get rides from older high school siblings whose days now start a but after our school day? Are more kids sleeping longer and later? As we work through these questions and speculate on other ones, I would like to ask families to consider helping us make sure that students get to school ahead of the morning bell so they can begin the day more grounded.  I deliver this request appreciating that families often need to juggle a lot of things each weekday morning and if there are adjustments that you’re able to make in support of this goal, I hope you’ll consider it. Finally, if in your home there is an increase in tardiness that you see as less about logistics and potentially related to struggles or concerns with/about school, please don’t hesitate to reach out to your child’s counselor to begin a conversation about how we can work together on those issues. (P.S. please let your kids know that if the Patriots are victorious this evening, we are not delaying the start of school, we can celebrate at during the regularly scheduled school day….)

Here’s a couple of updates and reminders for the next few weeks:

We have our next early release scheduled for this Thursday, February 7.  This will be a professional learning session for staff, and students will be dismissed at 11:06am.  Please plan accordingly.  

A reminder to families of 8th grade students that the High School is hosting an information session regarding the upcoming transition to the High School.  I know, it felt like yesterday that they were in elementary school.  Once you’ve recovered from that time warp, please refer to the email message that was sent to 8th grade families last week from the High School administration about the event that will be this Wednesday, February 6 from 7pm to 8:30pm (at the High School) and is intended for parents/guardians only.  

February Vacation starts at the end of the school day on Friday, February 15.  Please note that February 15 is a full day and will end with our annual Blue & Gold Assembly (more on that next week).  If your family has travel plans that will involve taking your kids out before this date, please take a moment to inform the Main Office ([email protected]) and your child’s teachers.  

ABSAF, the community organization that works to raise funds to support student activities and programs at the Junior High and High School is in the process of accepting nominations for their Board for the upcoming 2018-2019 school year. Students who are interested in a 2-year leadership role and want to be considered by the nomination committee can apply by completing the attached questionnaire and returning it to their nomination chair, Casey Eaton.  Their deadline for the application is February 11th. The link also includes an FAQ that provides additional information about ABSAF.  

We had our latest round of Everyday Leaders take place last week, and what a lively bunch who made our lunch together a highlight of the week for me.  Congratulations to this group of Everyday Leaders: Maria Araujo, Abigail Bayer, Matthew Chytil, Siena Kolpin, Connor Nannene, Isabelle Shee, Karen Ssuubi, Henry Tshabalala, Irene Tsitlenko, Mona Yoshiki Franzen, and Charlotte Yourk.   

Finally, I want to wish those in our community who celebrates Chinese New Year a happy and festive new year as we enter the Year of the Pig.  For those who may share my delight in the culinary aspects of different cultures and holidays, here’s an article from the the Los Angeles Times in 2017 that profiled foods for a Chinese New Year feast, and here’s a more recent article in the Boston Globe about a few local places to consider eating as part of the upcoming festivities.  As many of us prepare to watch the Super Bowl later this evening, you can go here and watch a brief video from two years ago of Patriots quarterback Tom Brady wishing everyone a happy Chinese New Year in Mandarin Chinese, or at least making a sincere effort.  I applaud the effort, and I am relieved that he won’t need to be calling offensive plays this evening in Mandarin.  

Have a great week, everyone.

Cheers,

Hi Everyone,

In different classes, and in both grades, students at RJ Grey are taught skills and strategies that will help them evaluate the credibility and reliability of online sources, and thinking about how to identify sources for bias and accuracy.  As the online platform continues to serve as the primary entrypoint for individuals to search for and acquire information about the world around them, becoming a more thoughtful consumer of the not-so-regulated internet will be a valuable life skill for our kids.  Lucky for us that the recent New England victory over Kansas City in the AFC Championship game provides us with the perfect opportunity to show students how information online can be so easily manipulated by individuals to support a particular narrative or viewpoint, especially on Wikipedia - the free online encyclopedia where many students’ research for assignments often (and unfortunately) begin.  While I consider myself a loyal fan of the Patriots, the recent editing of the Wikipedia description of the AFC Championship Game to be the game “where one team gets to play the New England Patriots for a chance to play for the Super Bowl” (see photo to the right) is going a tad far.  To be sure, some of this bravado and boldness is understandable given that it’s borne from a level of success that may never again occur in our lifetimes, but that’s also led to some foolish decisions - like the Northeastern University student who last year added a tattoo of LII (Roman numerals for 52) to commemorate the Patriots’ sixth Super Bowl before the game was even played.  I wonder how much mental energy that young man spent this past year hoping that the Patriots reach and win this year’s Super Bowl so he can just add another I to his most recent tattoo and it becomes an easy fix to last year’s misstep.  While we’re on the subject of tattoos and reviewing evidence to verify claims and statements, I hope you will all forgive me for going on a slight tangent and offering a nod to one of the more bizarre news stories from last week by noting how having a tattoo of Richard Nixon’s face on your back does not, among other things, mean you get to claim to have been an advisor and aide for the former President’s campaign in the late 1960s.  Let’s all applaud my decision to include a screenshot of the Wikipedia page about the AFC Championship game instead of a photo of the aforementioned tattoo of the 37th President (which you can easily Google if you’re morbidly curious).  

A couple of notes and reminders for this week:

Many thanks to those involved with organizing and supervising last Friday’s Summer Fun in Winter event!  We had a lot of students attend the event, and many seemed to enjoy themselves.  Ms. Ahl and the Student Council officers put a great deal of work into the preparations, and thanks also to the many parents who donated food, along with volunteers Tracey Estabrook, Karen Finkelman, Melissa Clayton, Rebecca Carlson, Sheila Bauer and Mai Nguyen for staffing the snack table.  

A friendly reminder to families that we have our next early release scheduled for Thursday, February 7.  This will be a professional learning session for staff, and students will be dismissed at 11:06am.  Please plan accordingly.

This is a reminder to 7th grade families that we will be finishing our Signs of Suicide (SOS) lesson and screening tool to 7th grade teams this week.  The lesson will be delivered tomorrow (Monday) to 7 Blue students, and then to 7 Green students on Wednesday the 30th.

Now, two articles that I wanted to make mention of and pass along for you to consider reading should it be of interest to you.  First, as a follow up to my recent musings about managing screen time and social media usage by our kids, here is an article from Common Sense Media that provides an overview of a few new apps that are becoming popular amongst adolescents.  I appreciate this site’s efforts to keep families updated since awareness of the next “big thing” is a perpetual uphill climb. Once you get accustomed to one social media platform, twenty new ones appear - some with useful applications, and others for less-than-noble purposes.  The second article is a piece in the New York Times by Lisa Damour that I was excited to read on the subject of helping teens manage social conflicts.  I’ve felt as both a parent and a school principal, that this particular aspect of supporting teenagers has gotten trickier and a bit messier, and a really important area for us to explore together.  It’s become a bit harder to discern which conflicts and moments of hardship warrant more direct parental intervention, and which are the ones where it’s appropriate and even helpful for the adults to remain on the sidelines.  Still observing and supporting, to be sure, but not solving. Several years ago, child psychologist Dan Kindlon warned against what he calls our “discomfort with discomfort” and argued that if kids aren’t allowed to experience painful feelings, they won’t develop “psychological immunity.”  He likens this process to the body’s immune system. He explains, “you have to be exposed to pathogens, or your body won’t know how to respond to an attack. Kids also need exposure to discomfort, failure, and struggle” and that also includes what the Times article refers to as social friction and social injury.  It’s easy, and tempting, and certainly understandable, for many of us to develop an instantaneous and emotional reaction to unpleasantness that our kids may encounter, especially social situations that sting and are common at this age due to the constantly shifting landscape that defines these teenage years.  Not sure how this piece will land with each of you, but at the very least it offers some food for thought, and some language and vocabulary, to help with conversations you may have with other parents and friends.

Finally, we had our latest installment of Poetry Fridays at the end of last week, with Ms. Carter (8 Red Social Studies) offering us a reading of Robert Frost’s poem “Stopping by Woods on a Snowy Evening”, a poetic acknowledgement of the recent snowfall that has “finally” arrived this winter season.  Click here if you’d like to read the poem as well.  

Have a great week, everyone.

Cheers,

Hi Everyone,

I’m currently multi-tasking, writing this week’s edition of Grey Matters while watching the Patriots play in the AFC Championship game.  If New England struggles in the game, I’ll need to proofread this newsletter a few extra times to make sure I haven’t mistakenly transcribed whatever it is that I’ve shouted at the television.  While many of you might be watching the game after spending the morning plowing and shoveling out from last night’s storm, I will admit, a bit sheepishly, that I am watching the game after spending the morning going for a run along the beach.  Melisa and I were fortunate to have the opportunity to take advantage of the long weekend, and a cousin willing to stay with our kids, to take a quick trip to a warmer climate. When we took this same trip last year, our daughter Addison wrote us a note telling us how she’d miss us and how she felt a bit “abandoned” by her mother and father.  This year, no such note and really no sense of loss and sadness expressed by our kids. The cynical part of me suspects that one reason for this is that our three angels were themselves plotting a weekend free from our watchful eye when it comes to screen time and their access to technology. Melisa and I continue to have mixed results with our approach to managing screen time and overall reliance on technology, including a recent mini-meltdown by yours truly that included my declaring a blanket ban on all technology on the second floor of our home (and then an hour later my finding one of the kids huddled in the basement with an iPad saying, “you didn’t say we couldn’t be down here in the basement!”).  As I continue to clumsily navigate this particular terrain I get easily drawn to articles that offer all types of opinions, strategies, and viewpoints about how to help kids develop a healthy relationship with technology. Here’s two recent articles that advance viewpoints that I’m going to need time to digest and think about: first, a piece at NPR.org that profiles a new book by Temple University professor Jordan Shapiro who, among other things, is advocating for kids to be starting on social media at a younger age as part of “leaning in to parenting your wired child.” (I’m definitely gonna have a hard time with that one…)  The second is an article in Scientific American inspired by a paper out of the University of Oxford that presents data to suggest that worry and concern over the negative impact of screen time on adolescents is overstated.  So far, no reason for me to throw anything at the television, and hoping it stays that way.

Here’s some updates and reminders for the next few weeks:

Our school district is currently going through its annual process for building a proposed budget for the following school year (2019-2020) and presenting it to the School Committee and the community at-large.  Superintendent Light has already made a few initial presentations that outline include the requests for new positions and programs that we’d like to include as part of next year’s budget.  Our efforts to provide the budget story for next year always culminates in Budget Saturday, which is a daylong presentation to the School Committee that includes details of the proposed budget and reasons behind new requests.  Budget Saturday will be this coming Saturday, January 26 from 8:30am to 3:00pm in the Junior High Library and is open to the public.  If you can’t make it, but would like to review the documents outlining our budget proposal for next year, you can find them here.  

A friendly reminder to families that we have our next early release scheduled for Thursday, February 7.  This will be a professional learning session for staff, and students will be dismissed at 11:06am.  Please plan accordingly.

Our Exploratory rotation (i.e. Art, Music/Drama, Minuteman Tech, Digital Literacy) will be switching after this Friday. Students who were enrolled in two of the four Exploratories for the first half of the year will now switch to the other two for the remainder of the school year.  

This is a reminder to 7th grade families that we will be starting our Signs of Suicide (SOS) lesson and screening tool to 7th grade teams.  The lesson will be delivered on Tuesday to 7 Red students, and then to 7 Gold students on Thursday the 24th.  Students on 7 Blue and 7 Green will participate the following week on the 28th and 30th. Also, a final reminder that the Eliot Community Human Services will conduct a suicide prevention workshop for members of our adult community on Tuesday, January 29th at 6pm, also in our Junior High Library.  QPR - Question, Persuade and Refer is a community-wide program that teachers the warning signs of suicide and an effective emergency response. If you are interested in attending, please contact Dr. Deborah Garfield at [email protected].  

Finally, we had our latest installment of Poetry Fridays at the end of last week, with staff member Valery Gransewicz offering a special tribute to American poet and Pulitzer Prize winner Mary Oliver, who passed away last Thursday.  There were many well-deserved tributes for and about Mary Oliver that appeared via social media and news outlets, including this Washington Post piece, and this Postscript in The New Yorker.  On Friday, Ms. Gransewicz read A Voice From I Don’t Know Where.  Many of the tributes on social media posted her piece, Wild Geese, which I have also included below.  

Wild Geese

You do not have to be good.

You do not have to walk on your knees

For a hundred miles through the desert, repenting.

You only have to let the soft animal of your body

love what it loves.

Tell me about your despair, yours, and I will tell you mine.

Meanwhile the world goes on.

Meanwhile the sun and the clear pebbles of the rain

are moving across the landscapes,

over the prairies and the deep trees,

the mountains and the rivers.

Meanwhile the wild geese, high in the clean blue air,

are heading home again.

Whoever you are, no matter how lonely,

the world offers itself to your imagination,

calls to you like the wild geese, harsh and exciting —

over and over announcing your place

in the family of things.

Have a great week, everyone.

Cheers,

Hi Everyone,

An article popped up in my social media feed this morning entitled, “Recipes to keep you occupied and well-fed on a snow day.”  I smiled, and selfishly thought, “don’t need to read that, and hoping I won’t have reason to for the rest of this year.”  The lack of snow this year has now become the storyline, and some have even begun to call it a snow drought and wondering if it’s still not a matter of if, but a matter of when, and then how much (in sort of pay now, or pay later, mentality).  Not being one who participates much in winter-oriented activities such as skiing or ice skating, my only current reason for lamenting the lack of snow is that I think some well-timed snowfall this afternoon could enhance the home field advantage that one hopes the New England Patriots have over the accustomed-to-warm-and-sunny-weather Los Angeles Chargers.  Given that this edition of Grey Matters will land in your respective Inboxes after the conclusion of the game, hopefully the cold temperatures and inspired play by the hometown team was enough for a victory over the Chargers.  

Here’s some updates and reminders for the next week or so:

Interim reports for this current Winter Trimester will be emailed to families at the end of this week.  Please remember that this includes any email addresses currently listed on your child’s Emergency Card. Not all students will necessarily receive an interim and if your child does receive one or more, please take a moment to review the feedback and information with him/her/them.  If you have any questions about those interims, I would encourage you to start a dialogue with your child’s teacher.

The Winter Band Concert is this Tuesday at 7pm in the auditorium.

There is no school on Monday, January 21st for the Martin Luther King, Jr. long weekend.  Per our Homework Policy, there will be no homework assigned for that long weekend.  

I received this note about an opportunity for students interested in coding and wanted to pass it along:  The Girls Who Code club is starting up again this Spring for AB students in 6th through 8th grade. Hosted at the Acton Memorial Library, this free, nationally recognized program is a fun introduction to computer science and technology careers, where girls learn coding skills and create a small group project together using Scratch, JavaScript, or Python. This year's curriculum will focus on beginners, so no experience is necessary. Lessons are co-taught by high-school student volunteers and an adult facilitator. Space is limited to 20 students. Participants must have access to a laptop computer that they can bring to meetings. The club meets at the Acton Memorial Library from 9am to 11am on Saturdays, February through June. Interested students should pre-register here.  Questions? AB students can email [email protected]

Here’s an important message about RJ Grey Yearbooks. Families have received notifications earlier this year directly from our Yearbook publisher about options to order a yearbook.  Our book this year consists of 70+ colored pages full of 7th and 8th graders participating in school activities, clubs, sports, and special events. The hardcover book will include survey responses, fun photos, student art and poetry, and everything in between. The deadline to purchase yearbooks is coming up - Tuesday, January 22.  The cost of the book is $37 and can be ordered one of two ways: The preferred way is to purchase the book online, by going to this link and entering our school ID: 13545.  When you get directed to our school’s page, click the “buy a yearbook” option on the left and then (1) put in the quantity and click “buy these items”; (2) click “buy these items for a student” and type in your child's name; you will then be prompted to select the student from our school's database; (3) pay by credit card and then save your email receipt for record purposes. If you prefer not to order online, students may also go the more traditional route and order a yearbook with cash or check made out to RJ Grey. They should complete this form and bring payment to Main Office, to the attention of Mr. Lewis. Important: Please make sure to include a note with the student’s name, grade, and homeroom teacher’s name. We know this is something your child will enjoy receiving in June. We hope also that years from now your child will look back at their RJ Grey experience with fond memories and know this yearbook will be a way for them to do just that!  

Now a message from me about yearbooks and other school-related costs.  If the cost of the yearbook presents a financial hardship for your family, please do not hesitate to contact us and we can have a discrete and simple conversation, and we always make things work.  I’d like to use our discussion about yearbook orders to offer a general but important reminder to all families that we never want the cost of any school-related program or activity to prevent a student from fully accessing important school programs or experiences. It is inevitable that we will need to attach a fee to some programs, trips, or optional things that are “extra” and if there are moments when cost does present a dilemma for your family, I hope you’ll feel comfortable reaching out to your child’s counselor and/or Assistant Principal who will be happy to work with you on a solution.  

Thank you to the many 7th grade families who have already submitted their signed consent forms regarding our upcoming plans to present the Signs of Suicide (SOS) lesson and screening tool to our 7th grade teams.  We had about 30 parents/guardians attend last Monday’s information session with Riverside Trauma Center and I hope those in attendance found it useful.  The signed consent forms were due this past Friday, January 11 and we will continue to accept forms from families this week.  Please also remember that students who don’t submit the consent form will be scheduled to participate in the lesson but not the screening tool.  We are scheduled to deliver the SOS lesson on January 22, 24, 28, and 30 (one team per day).  7 Red will be scheduled for January 22, 7 Gold will participate on January 24, 7 Blue will be on January 28, and finally 7 Green will participate on January 30.  I will send all families a note later this week to remind everyone of this schedule and the resources available to families.  

Also, another important reminder that the Eliot Community Human Services (with a location in Concord), with a Healthy Teen Initiative Grant from the AB United Way, will conduct a suicide prevention workshop for members of our adult community on Tuesday, January 29 at 6:00pm, also in our Junior High Library.  QPR - Question, Persuade and Refer is a community-wide program that teachers the warning signs of suicide and an effective emergency response.  People trained in QPR learn how to recognize the warning signs of a suicide crisis and how to question, persuade and refer someone for help.  If you are interested in attending, please contact Dr. Deborah Garfield at [email protected].  

Have a great week, everyone.

Cheers,

Hi Everyone,

Usually, by this point in the school year, I will have already made several (whiny) references in Grey Matters to the cold temperatures and some impact that the season’s snowfall has had on my house.  By now I’m also usually consistently wearing snow pants and arctic boots during morning traffic duty.  The wear and tear that (normal) New England winters has on my soul then leads to me discussing with all of you my long standing dream of living in San Francisco and enjoying the food and more temperate weather.  Things are a bit different this year. First, and I’m not complaining, there hasn’t been more than a dusting of snow except for those couple of inches in mid-November - and even that accumulation of snow melted within a few days.  And even with current forecasts calling for about an inch of snow tomorrow night, the ten day forecast hovers in the 30 to 40 degree range.  Thus, my snow pants and boots are still on standby in my office.  Moreover, the less frigid weather has made me think about San Francisco less frequently, and the recent wildfires that choked the city with smoke, along with that region’s growing challenges with wealth disparity and affordability (and the occasional earthquake), has me thinking more favorably about our neck of the woods.  One reason I am bringing up the weather and snow is that even with the mild(er) and stretch of snow-free days, our Ski and Board Club will still have its first session at Wachusett Mountain this Tuesday (hooray for snow-making technology).  A final important reminder to Ski and Board Club families that equipment is not allowed on buses.  Most families bring the equipment at morning drop off, and a few families bring the equipment to school later in the day (it all gets stored in the auditorium).  Please be sure to have the ski and board equipment organized for a speedy drop off in the morning.

And while I personally would welcome a school year free of snow delays and snow days, that’s probably not realistic.  If and when we do have some messy precipitation, our District sends out automated calls to families with delay/cancellation notifications.  Along with the automated calls, families can also utilize different social media platforms for that and other information as well.  Acton-Boxborough has both an official Twitter feed as well as a Facebook page where announcements and reminders will be posted.  If you aren’t already following RJ Grey’s Twitter feed, please also consider joining our 763 other followers.  On that feed, we’ll “re-tweet” important District announcements along with our own school-based reminders and updates.  

Here’s a few additional reminders and update for the coming two weeks:

I need to make a correction from last week about the Winter Band Concert, which is Tuesday, January 15 at 7pm in the Auditorium.  I mistakenly listed it as Wednesday the 16th, my apologies - I believe the Band Director, Mr. Arsenault, has sent the correct dates to families of Band students.   The Chorus and Strings Concert is Wednesday, January 23 at 7pm in the Auditorium.  

A reminder to students and families that our after school clubs and activities welcome new members throughout the year! You can review the club and activity options on our website at this page.

There is no school Monday, January 21 in recognition of the Martin Luther King, Jr. holiday.  

I hope 7th grade families have had a chance to review the letter that I sent to parents/guardians last Wednesday regarding our plans to conduct the Signs of Suicide (SOS) lesson and the Brief Screening for Adolescent Depression to students in 7th grade later this month.   We require every family to return a signed consent form (included with the original email and also sent via US Postal Mail) from every student’s parent/guardian indicating the student’s level of participation.  Please send that form in with your child as soon as possible. If you need another copy of the consent form, please let me know. For parent/guardians who would like to learn more about the SOS lesson and preview the materials that are included in the lesson before deciding on their child’s level of participation, please consider attending the Parent Information session that we have scheduled for this Tuesday, January 8 at 6pm in the Junior High Library.  This session will be led by Nanci Ginty, a staff member from Riverside Trauma Center who has worked closely with Acton-Boxborough over the past three years.  

Separately, and in support of our efforts with student mental health, Eliot Community Human Services (with a location in Concord), with a Healthy Teen Initiative Grant from the AB United Way, will conduct a suicide prevention workshop for members of our adult community on Tuesday, January 29 at 6pm, also in our Junior High Library.  QPR - Question, Persuade and Refer is a community-wide program that teachers the warning signs of suicide and an effective emergency response.  People trained in QPR learn how to recognize the warning signs of a suicide crisis and how to question, persuade and refer someone for help.  Please note that while it has a shared goal, the Parent Information session about our SOS has a very different focus, and is narrowly focused on providing families with an overview of our plans with students.  

Finally, it’s a pleasure to highlight 8th grader Sean Nelson, who is January’s Artist of the Month. Sean’s work is our first Artist of the Month foray into the
relatively new art form of drone photography.  When asked about things that influence/inform the artwork he likes to make, Sean noted, “Nature and architecture definitely give me inspiration for my photography. I have taken drone photos of the beach, lighthouses, and the mountains, and have also taken drone photos in Acton
Center. I like taking photos of memories, or things that intrigue me, and things that other people can relate to.”  If you’d like to check out some of Sean’s work,
you can click here.  (As of Sunday morning, there are a few hiccups that need
to be fixed with Sean’s Artist of the Month profile page, but hopefully it will be
all set by later today, if not Monday morning). 

Have a great week, everyone.

Cheers,

Hi Everyone,

Welcome back from Winter Break, and welcome to 2019.  Our family avoided any long-distance travel over the break, and our time in and around our home can be best summarized by our youngest son Parker’s recent declaration that, “there’s no such thing as eating too much chocolate.”  In between too-long stretches of eating things with high concentrations of sugar, a vast array of bread products, and a whole lot of cheese, I used the break as an opportunity to catch up on a bit of reading - both for pleasure, and to stay on top of topics and ideas that might be directly related to our shared world of parenting, education, and hoping to stay somewhat current with the lives of our children.  This reading goal of mine was aided by holiday gifts from a few good friends, one of whom gave me a copy of Educated, by Tara Westover, and another friend who gave me Tommy Orange’s There There, both of which are on quite a few “Top Ten” lists.  While I can’t easily share with everyone my copies of those books, I can share links to several pieces that may be of interest to some or many of you.  In no particular order:

Two articles on the rapidly growing industry of ESports (competitive video gaming),which is quickly nearing the $1 billion mark, from new efforts by organizations and businesses to create a “Little League” equivalent for this new arena, to e-sports scholarships now being offered by colleges and universities across the country.  

On strategies and tips for communicating effectively with your teenager, this New York Times article offers this psychologists’ take on how to frame the advice and guidance you hope your kids might consider.  

This is a pretty intense New York Times piece from late October that presents growing concerns by technologists about the impact of smartphones on the healthy development of young people, and a related Washington Post piece that looks at why “cellphones and sleepovers are such a bad mix” and makes a recommendation for how families (especially sleepover hosts) may want to adapt their approach to supervision of these get togethers.  

Finally, the Deseret News is a newspaper based out of Salt Lake City, Utah and they just completed a yearlong series, Generation Vexed, about why and in what ways teens are struggling with record levels of anxiety.  This series includes over twenty pieces that examines the topic from a variety of angles and perspectives - gender, young children to college-aged children, debates about medication and other treatments, and strategies for families (to name a few).  

As we return from the Break hopefully you can still find a few moments of quiet here and there to read any of the above pieces that pique your interest.  

An important note about this week: our last set of parent-teacher conferences is scheduled for the evening of Thursday, January 3, from 5pm to 8pm.  This is our second year with an evening session and I want to provide a reminder of what this means for our school schedule on Thursday and Friday.  

1. Thursday, January 3 is a full day of school from 8:00am to 2:36pm.  

2. Parent-teacher conferences scheduled for Thursday, January 3 will be held during the 5pm to 8pm window.  

3. The following day, Friday, January 4, is an early release day for all students and staff.  School will be from 8:00am to 11:06am, and buses will be available for their “regular routes.”  Please note that students at the High School and the elementary schools have do not have early release schedules for that day.  

Here’s additional updates and reminders for the first few weeks of January, and then a bit of important information about our annual Signs of Suicide (SOS) program for 7th grade students.  

There is no school for all Acton-Boxborough students on Monday, January 21 for the Martin Luther King, Jr. holiday.  

The RJG Winter Band Concert is scheduled for the evening of Wednesday, January 16, and the Winter Chorus and String Ensemble Concert is scheduled for the evening of Wednesday, January 23.  Both events begin at 7pm and taking place in the RJ Grey auditorium.  

The very popular Ski and Board Club has its first session next Tuesday, January 8.  Please remember that ski and board gear can not be brought on AB buses in the morning, and that means on Tuesdays Ski and Board Club members are dropped off in the morning with quite a bit of gear.  For those of you planning to drop off kids and gear in the lower parking lot, it would be immensely helpful if the gear was organized in a way that supported a speedy drop-off.  The best case scenario is if you have those ski bags that package everything up all nice and are easy to carry. I’ll do my best to help kids with getting gear out of the trunk, and anything that you can do in advance would be much appreciated.  There are also some families who choose to drop off their child’s ski/boarding gear later in the day and bring it to the auditorium where it is stored.

We had our latest round of Everyday Leaders take place right before Winter Break. It was great to spend some time with a number of our students and see how the year is going, and to also get some of their initial feedback on different parts of the RJ Grey experience.  Congratulations to this group of Everyday Leaders: Robin Zhang, Anthony Cronin, Nisha Bhat, Miller Lillie, Nakisa Razban, Lily Newcombe, Emma Lent, Ethan Xia, Grace O’Sullivan, Noam Worcel, and Anna Campbell.  

I want to provide families with another preview of a letter that families of 7th grade students will be receiving later this week by email as well as US Postal Mail, that discusses our school’s implementation of the Signs of Suicide (SOS) lesson and mental health screening tool.  Before the Winter Break, I provided an overview of our annual Signs of Suicide lesson and the Brief Screening for Adolescent Depression to students in 7th and 9th grade. The Signs of Suicide Prevention Program is a universal program for middle and high school students that has proven effective in helping students who are concerned about themselves or a friend.  It is the only school-based suicide-prevention curriculum listed by the Substance Abuse and Medical Health Services Administration (SAMSHA) in its National Registry of Evidence-Based Programs and Practices that addresses suicide risk and depression.  At RJ Grey, the program is scheduled this year to take place in 7th grade team classes during the week of January 21 and January 28, with two teams scheduled per week.  For parents and guardians who would like to preview the Signs of Suicide lesson and the video used during the lesson, we are hosting an information session on Tuesday, January 8 at 6pm in the Junior High Library.  Joining us that evening will be a program coordinator from the Riverside Trauma Center.  At that session we typically provide an overview of the program and answer questions that parents/guardians might have. Families of 7th grade students will be receiving an email letter tomorrow (Wednesday) about the SOS lesson and mental health screening tool, along with a consent form that we need parents and guardians to return by Friday, January 11th.  Families will also receive a copy of the letter via US Postal Mail on Thursday or Friday.  The consent form allows you to select your child’s level of participation in the program.

Separately, and in support of our efforts with student mental health, Eliot Community Human Services (with a location in Concord), with a Healthy Teen Initiative Grant from the AB United Way, is continuing to offer suicide prevention workshops for members of our adult community, with another session scheduled for Tuesday, January 29 from 6:00pm to 8:00pm, also in our Junior High Library.  QPR - Question, Persuade and Refer is a community-wide program that teachers the warning signs of suicide and an effective emergency response.  People trained in QPR learn how to recognize the warning signs of a suicide crisis and how to question, persuade and refer someone for help.  Please note that while it has a shared goal, the Parent Information session about our SOS has a very different focus, and is narrowly focused on providing families with an overview of our plans with students.  In the coming weeks I’ll provide a few more reminders about this opportunity and encouragement to attend.  

Finally, before the start of conferences on December 18 we had our annual Staff Appreciation Luncheon which was hosted by our amazing PTSO.  Educators are no different when it comes to our stomachs being the quickest way into our hearts.  Par for the course, the food that was made and donated by our families was much appreciated and quickly consumed.  Many thanks to parents Tracey Estabrook and Mai Nguyen for taking on the coordination, planning, and set up of this event, and the many families who contributed to an inviting and filling spread.  

Have a great week, everyone.  Welcome back.

Cheers,

Hi Everyone,

By now I hope you have received and had a chance to read the message that Superintendent Light sent to members of our community regarding the Boston Globe article that was published this morning, and that profiles the student suicides that have occurred in our community over the last several years.  It’s also likely that many of you have, by now, also read the article itself. I know I’m stating the obvious when I note the difficulty of reading that piece without experiencing a range of emotions.  Certain feelings and questions that we’ve felt before have probably resurfaced, along with new ones introducing themselves into the dialogue. As we continue to navigate this topic through the lens and perspective of adults and parents, I know we agree about the central importance of being attentive to our children and when and/or where they may find themselves entering conversations about it with peers, classmates, and friends.  For all families, I reiterate and echo Peter Light’s encouragement of parents and guardians to speak with their children as appropriate. If you’re hesitant because you feel you aren’t equipped with all the right answers for every question they may ask, I offer you this piece of learning that I’ve gained from my work with those who are very knowledgeable about this arena: for many adolescents a simple check-in may be all that is needed right now, where you acknowledge the piece and offer your child an open invitation to share their initial reactions or questions. They may or may not take you up on it at that very moment, but maybe it happens later on during a longer drive in the car to a practice or rehearsal. The offer to listen, as opposed to the providing of particular answers, is often what’s most needed and most helpful for the majority of our children.  Of course, if you have reasons for additional concerns or your child is one who has received mental health support previously, please don’t hesitate to reach out to us and we can work through next steps.

In both Peter’s letter and in the Globe article, there are references to additional training, partnerships, and interventions that our District has implemented over the past three years in an effort to address suicide and mental health in general.  One of those interventions is the Signs of Suicide (SOS) lesson and mental health screening tool that we now conduct annually to students in 7th and 9th grade.  Because that program is scheduled to take place in mid-January, families of 7th grade families will receive notification about it when we return from the Winter Break, and so may be helpful to provide a brief preview for all of you at this time.  The Signs of Suicide Prevention Program is a universal program for middle and high school students that has proven effective in helping students who are concerned about themselves or a friend.  It is the only school-based suicide-prevention curriculum listed by the Substance Abuse and Medical Health Services Administration (SAMSHA) in its National Registry of Evidence-Based Programs and Practices that addresses suicide risk and depression.  At RJ Grey, the program is scheduled this year to take place in 7th grade team classes during the week of January 21 and January 28, with two teams scheduled per week.  For parents and guardians who would like to preview the Signs of Suicide lesson and the video used during the lesson, we are hosting an information session on Tuesday, January 8 at 6pm in the Junior High Library.  Joining us that evening will be a staff member from the Riverside Trauma Center.  At that session we will provide an overview of the program and answer questions that parents/guardians might have. Families of 7th grade students will be receiving a letter about the SOS lesson and mental health screening tool, along with a consent form that we will need parents and guardians to return by Friday, January 11th. The consent form allows you to select your child’s level of participation in the program.  Thank you in advance for your assistance with our continued implementation of this important program.

We have this final week of school before the start of the Winter Break.  Here are several reminders and updates:

The next set of parent-teacher conferences is this Tuesday, December 18.  That means that all students will again be dismissed at 11:06am.  Please be sure to confirm with your child plans and expectations for after school as they will not be able to remain in the school building.

Every year, the PTSO organizes a staff appreciation luncheon that is held during the second set of parent-teacher conferences (which is this Tuesday).  Many thanks to the PTSO organizers and the volunteers who contribute to this event with food, drink and supply donations, as well as volunteering to staff the event.  For more details and to volunteer/donate, click here to sign up!  

We have a full day of school on Friday, December 21, and then the Winter Break begins!  If you and your family are beginning your break a bit before that (or a lot before that), please be sure to let our front office know so we can take accurate attendance (email Katy Frey at [email protected]).  It would also be important to have your child speak to each of his/her teachers about missed work and assignments.

School resumes after Winter Break on Wednesday, January 2 (translation: don’t send your kids to school on Tuesday, January 1 - we won’t be there! We have our final set of parent-teacher conferences scheduled for the evening of Thursday, January 3.  There will be a full day of school on that Thursday of conferences, and then a half-day of school the following day (Friday) where students are dismissed at 11:06am.  

Save the Date: The Winter Band Concert is the evening of Wednesday, January 16, and the Winter Chorus and String Ensemble Concert is the evening of Wednesday, January 23.  

At the most recent School Committee meeting that was held last Thursday, the Committee approved the school calendar for the 2019-2020 school year (next year).  You can view and download the calendar by clicking here.  

One of our newest student clubs this year, Creating Change, have been working very hard to prepare for their first event - a Winter Pop Up Shop!  Creating Change is a club that focuses on community service through art making and is open to students of all art ability levels. Their hope is to use and develop art-making skills while we make a difference in the R.J. Grey community and beyond.The students in the group (over 25 strong), have created a number of small gifts and crafts that they will be selling at this Pop Up Shop, with proceeds being donated to charitable organizations. The Pop Up Shop will take place this Monday, Wednesday, Thursday and Friday immediately after school, and all items for sale are $5 or less.  

We have many students participating in the Ski and Board Club when we return from the Break.  Please remember that ski and board gear can not be brought on AB buses in the morning, and that means on Tuesdays Ski and Board Club members are dropped off in the morning with quite a bit of gear.  The first session of Ski and Board Club is Tuesday, January 8. For those of you planning to drop off kids and gear in the lower parking lot, it would be immensely helpful if the gear was organized in a way that supported a speedy drop-off.  The best case scenario is if you have those ski bags that package everything up all nice and are easy to carry. Believe it or not, some of our 13-year olds throw their equipment all over the trunk before leaving the house (I know, hard to imagine), and then everyone in the parking lot gets to watch them and me get tangled up in boots, poles, and helmets.  I’ll do my best to help kids with getting gear out of the trunk, and anything that you can do in advance would be much appreciated. There are also some families who choose to drop off their child’s ski/boarding gear later in the day and bring it to the auditorium where it is stored.

Finally, I want to wish everyone a wonderful Winter Break.  As we enter the break, I wanted to offer everyone a link to a story that has quickly risen to one of my favorite pieces this year.  It’s a piece by Shirley Wang about the unlikely but very real friendship that developed between former NBA star Charles Barkley and her father Lin, who died this past June.  It made my day, and so I wanted to pass it along to all of you with the hopes it adds a bit of joy to your break.  Remember that as part of our homework practice there will be no homework or studying assigned to students for this period of time.  Please encourage your child to disconnect from school for the duration of the vacation, and focus his/her energies and time on other interests, friends, and family.  Safe travels to those of you who might be making a trip out of state.

Have a great week, everyone.  Happy holidays and a happy new year.  

Cheers,